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I’m Every Woman

The Passport is highlighting women and what it means to be a woman for the month of May and also in my reading group, NRG, we are discussing and celebrating the mindset of the woman, while also encouragingwomen in the group to step out on faith and become the GIRL BOSS that may desire to be.

So let me say this, not everyone wants to own a business and that’s fine.

It’s a lot of women that are content in their current jobs or staying home with the children and this is OKAY.

My mother was a housewife through our childhood and once I got in high school and my siblings were right behind me, she decided that she was tired of cooking and went to real estate school. That was ten years ago and last year she had the second highest commission sales in the state of Georgia.

Kudos to my mama who has worked with tons of celebs, but just to name a few: Gabrielle Union, Dwight Howard and Laila Ali. She successfully managed to run the house and her business and even now, while undergoing chemotherapy, she’s still selling homes and cashing checks! I love my mama; she’s the perfect example of Black Girl Magic and GIRL BOSS.

As I get older I realize the sacrifices made by my parents, and it has me a little eager for a family; just a lil bit. I love the way my parents raised us and I definitely plan on raising my children the same way.

As a young woman, at the age of 23 I think I’m doing okay for myself. I live in my own home and take care of myself. I’m extremely independent. I run my company as the CEO of NAKOEXPO and by the grace of God I meet my financial goal every month and every year.

This month I decided to celebrate me.

The only song that kept crossing my mind was, “I’M EVERY WOMAN”.

I’ve endured a few things and overcame more than I thought I would be able too. I was able to understand that everything happens for a reason, such as breakups, disconnections, business deals falling through or going wrong.

It all happens for a reason.

The song resonated with my soul because as I grow older I see that it’s possible for me to be anything I set my mind too.

The the sky is the limit, the possibilities are endless, prayers can be answered and dreams do come true.

I believe in myself more than anything and wholeheartedly I believe that I AM EVERY WOMAN.

I believe that I can be the best version of ME.

I’M EVERY WOMAN because despite what could be said about me, I still hold my head high not allowing this or that to get to me.

I hold my head high because my past does not define me.

I AM EVERY WOMAN, because every day I wake up striving to be better than I was yesterday.

I AM EVERY WOMAN, because there’s women out there like my mama, who came from the projects and are now a self-made boss, people like Michelle Obama, Beyonce’ (my homegirl) Serena and Venus Williams from the streets of Compton, California…man I can go on and on about who’s inspiring me these days, but just know that the way society is set up these days, NO ONE can say they have no one to look up to.

Black Girl Magic is happening all around us every day. So girl…you better get you some.

This past month, I decided to make a lifestyle change FOR REAL THIS TIME, and literally the day after I commented under my old trainer’s video saying I needed to get back in the gym, my doctor said she wanted to test me for diabetes. I was like, wait what?!

Not really surprised because I know I’m overweight and diabetes along with high blood pressure runs rapidly through both sides of the family, but I was in shock because I was like, dang I was about to get it together. I was about to finally start back going to the gym and stop with the drinking through the week, making all of the starches and having sometimes three or four coffees a day.

I was seriously about to stop.

But God stopped it for me.

It’s been a week since I had an iced coffee or donuts from Dunkin Donuts. It’s been a week since I’ve stopped by the Waffle House just for a sweet tea.

Now, I did mess up this past weekend by eating a Cîroc flavored cupcake and I felt so bad that I starved myself the next day.

I’m still waiting on my results to come back from the doctor but whether they’re good or bad, I have pledged to get my life and health in order.

I’m back meeting with a trainer three times a week, along with eating clean every day with no cheat days. And from what I’ve been told I’ve lost one pound and an inch around my waist already. Small accomplishment, but major to me, because being in the gym isn’t easy.

I have faith that I can turn my health around and also feel good in the process.

I shared this personal thing with you because I want you all that’s reading this to know that it’s never too late.

That dream, idea, business or whatever it is that only YOU know about. That idea that you’re scared to talk about, that book that you know you need to write but for some reason you keep putting it off, the house that you want to buy, the credit you desire….man, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

It’s your time.

The way life is set up these days all we have to do is seek and we shall find, ask and HE will answer, and do right by ourselves and other people.

I swear I’ve been making strides in the right direction and it feels so good.

Not only with my weight and eating better, but being honest with myself about where I am and where I’m trying to be by 25.

Yes I’m that person that counts down to the major birthdays.

Along with getting my weight together, I’m doing the same with my credit. It’s not that I have bad credit, thank God. I just don’t have any.

So this past month, I started to finally use my two secured check cards and one credit card and my daddy told me that’s all I need for the rest of my life…lol.

He hates credit cards and only has ONE!

My father said get your gas on one card, buy yourself something nice on the other card and then the other is for emergencies.

He promised me that by the end of the year I’ll be where I want to be with my credit score, which my goal is a 720.

So my new motto for 2017 is, “weight going down credit score going up”.

As a #GirlBoss in the making, I encourage you to set realistic goals.

People sometimes hate when I say realistic goals because we’re encouraged to reach high for the stars, but I live in reality.

And I set realistic goals…okay.

So I challenge you this month, the month of May, to set realistic goals such as: checking your credit score, enrolling in a class that will help make your dream come true, buy a planner. You know these goals can be as small as cleaning your pantry out of all of the junk food.

It’s possible to do whatever you need to do to get to where you want to be.

And before I wrap this stamp up let me say this,

These are the things you need to do to get in alignment before stepping into your purpose., I’m going to call this free game since my next self-help book is entitled, Where Is My Purpose.

1. Control your thinking

I had a conversation with someone yesterday (y’all know I think I’m a therapist) and she shared with me that she talks herself into depression and in the same breath can hype back herself up. She didn’t understand why nothing ever went right for her and she always seemed stuck. And at first I was going to tell her that she has a lot she needs to change but because I’m working on being more practical, I told her what I had been doing which was controlling my thinking.

No longer will I allow things to piss me TF off or oh so quickly get irritated and fall off the map, but I’m not doing that anymore. My boyfriend told me this past weekend, HE WHO ANGERS YOU CONTROLS YOU. Because he’s so nonchalant and he was like, baby, I don’t give nobody that power. He complains about nothing and I’m always asking him is he tired but he never says he is.

My boyfriend works seven days a week and three of those days he works doubles, from 730am to 11:30 pm, baby, be at work. He loves his money so he has controlled his thinking to not think, man all I do is work ; it’s, I gotta get this money instead.

For me, I’m constantly feeling behind or as if I’m not doing enough or making enough. I had to tell myself that me making $10,000 a month is enough. IT IS ENOUGH. I can’t keep getting mad that I’m not making $20,000 or $25,000 a month as I was used too. With me controlling my thinking, it has placed a renewed spirit of gratitude in my soul.

It has allowed me to have patience and grace.

It has allowed me to slow down and enjoy life more instead of stressing out about deadlines and stupid ass reviews.

I didn’t check my reviews for Salvation, which was my last release. Why? Because the reviews normally drive me crazy and I no longer want that kind of energy in my house.

There was a time when those reviews would literally ruin my whole day, but not anymore.

When becoming a Girl Boss and stepping into a purpose that you prayed and fasted for you have to CONTROL YOUR THINKING.

What else do I need to do?

Glad you asked!

The second thing you need to do is ‘ISOLATE THEN ELEVATE’.

Another conversation I had with a friend the other day led me to this next step, ISOLATE THEN ELEVATE.

What does this mean and how do I do it?

It’s simple, girl, trust me. I do it all of the time.

Isolate – fasting

Elevating – trusting

Fasting from yourself, what makes you weak and, what makes you question you.

Isolate from everything that means you no good and sometimes this is you,; this is your lowlife friends, this could be your sorry, broke and worthless boyfriend and this could even be your family that may be draining you of all of the energy and life that you have in you.

Sometimes isolation is needed, but let me say this, don’t let your fasting be in vain. I see so many people “fast” and then come back on social media the same way they were before they fasted. Why waste your time? I stopped saying I was fasting. Well first of all, it’s nobody’s business that you’re fasting. Read Matthew 6.

So when I say I stopped saying that I was fasting, I meant I stopped saying it to myself.

I told myself that I was taking a break to clear my head because fasting is to be taken serious.

Fasting isn’t something you do for attention; in the Bible it’s a serious pledge.

Sometimes we have to isolate from our thinking, from what we do every day.

Man, listen I switched up my whole routine.

Instead of writing all night stressing myself out I now wake up in the morning and write, cook dinner and I’m in bed by ten prepared to get a full night’s sleep.

Sometimes we have to step outside of our comfort zone and try something new.

In our quiet time by ourselves (isolation) we can clearly hear and talk to God.

It’s nothing wrong with taking some time to yourself.

This girl I’m cool with in my reading group, sent me a message yesterday saying that she had removed herself from everything, friends and family included and spent some time with herself; this was a text message in response to me checking on her a week prior. I took a liking to her and we text on and off. So when she told me that she had taken some time to herself, I was delighted. I asked her how she felt and then she shared with me that she had decided to move forward with some career decisions and it made my day yesterday.

So that’s a testimony right there! It’s so many distractions in today’s society, with social media being the biggest. It’s nothing for me to delete my apps in the morning just to get some work done. I do it literally every other day it seems like.

Isolation!

Elevation – trusting.

Why did I connect those two words?

Because the road won’t be easy and it won’t alwasy be fast-paced.

While you elevate, slowly but surely or sometimes rapidly, you’re trusting God for that glow up. This work out life ain’t easy, literally I’m sore right now.

My back and arms hurt so bad, but I’m trusting God that by the end of the year I’ll be able to do a lot more with my family and friends without being out of breath.

And finally I’ll be able to go cop me a Burberry shirt…lol…I really want one.

During your elevation you are trusting God to keep your mind and your peace.

And guess what? Everybody can’t go.

I told this girl the other day you be worrying so much about everybody else, girl ,worry about you. Focus on you!!

I don’t stress out about other people problems nor do I break my back for folks.

It’s just not in me anymore.

I’ve done it so much and I’m not doing it anymore.

God will have to literally say to me, “Help her daughter”.

While you elevate, you have to trust.

And as you trust Him, He will elevate you.

To me, it’s a win-win.

Please know that God will send who’s for you at the right time.

And last, but definitely not least!

The third step is to WAIT.

So here are the steps in case you forgot.

1. Control your thinking

2. Isolate then elevate

3. Wait

WAITING.

Listen, I ain’t got much patience, but I have way more than I had a year ago, even a few months ago.

So for the past two weeks, I’ve been struggling with finding something new. I’m a Libra and our attention spans aren’t the longest.

Writing is cool or whatever. I’ll never downplay my love of writing, but once it became a paycheck it just doesn’t feel the same to me anymore.

Randomly, I penned my first self-help book in less than three days, WHERE IS MY PEACE.

The book is almost sold out and that’s a major blessing.

I said that to say that we have to be patient and wait.

So my site nakoexpoapparel.com is ran by someone, well was ran by someone.

I honestly didn’t care about it. I’m one of those people where I’ll birth something and then a few months later I’m over it.

I don’t know why I’m like that but it just happens that way.

LOL…honestly I keep asking myself what’s going on with me and my boyfriend because he moved in five months ago and I’m not ready for him to leave yet…lol…it’s weird. I’m like damn when is he going to start getting on my nerves or when will the sex get bad. But nope, it ain’t happened yet.

Okay back to the point.

So I said that to say, I start these projects, I obsess over them and then I pass them along to someone who can nurture them properly.

I do it all of the time, same thing with The Underworld. Now, my current series I cannot wait for this series to end, I have 3 books left and I’m so ready to be done it’s ridiculous.

But anyway, so we have to learn how to WAIT.

I started nakoexpoapparel.com, I stayed up all night for weeks doing research on products and stuff and then once it was up and I had someone else design it and all of that, I didn’t care about it anymore.

So I had someone running it but when I finished Where Is My Peace, I was so excited and wanted to be completely hands-on with this project so I asked for the password and information to the app that we used to monitor sales and such, and when I logged in I was like, ‘Damnnnn this thing is booming with orders’.

So I was like let me check my bank account, I had NEVER even checked the account for the apparel site.

I have multiple sources of income, but I only have one card to two of the accounts; the other accounts I don’t have the cards so I won’t spend the money. So at any time I can go in there and get like whatever I want, simply because I never ever touch it.

So I found the information to the account and I checked it.

Listen I almost fell out okay.

I was like wait what.

So that’s where I’m currently at right now, yes…lol…I’m birthing another idea.

A bomb idea.

But I said ALLL of that to say, after I found out how much money my site was making I began to go crazy trying to come up with ideas for the site.

Literally, no sleeping, eating or writing. I had begun to obsess.

To the point where I knew I was tripping.

I don’t confide in many but I do trust my business bestie Ash Kardash so I sent her these long text messages telling her how I felt and how I was ready to be done writing and get a job or something, anything.

And then I told her that my site was doing great and now I want that to be my new job and I sounded distraught.

She told me to wait.

Literally, Ash said, “Girl close that laptop, enjoy the weekend, pray, and wait”.

Well needless to say I listened to her but I always do, she’s bomb.

I enjoyed my weekend and on Sunday morning I was lying in bed, too tired to do anything knowing my butt needed to be at church and God gave me the vision for my next venture, name and all.

I was so freaking happy.

I texted Ash and I told her the name and all of that, and she’s like, “See what I told you!”

So that’s my last point – wait.

Wait on God.

Trust that He will see you through.

Always.

God doesn’t want to see us down and out, He wants us to be fruitful.

I pray that this stamp touched you.

We all have the potential to be #GirlBosses if that’s what we chose.

We are all Girl Bosses if we want to be.

Walk in your purpose.

Keep your head high.

Forgive yourself first and then others.

Control your thinking, isolate then elevate, and WAIT.

With love,

NAKO

I’m Every Woman

So let me say this, not everyone wants to own a business and that’s fine.

It’s a lot of women that are content in their current jobs or staying home with the children and this is OKAY.

This month I decided to celebrate me.

The only song that kept crossing my mind was, “I’M EVERY WOMAN”.

It all happens for a reason.

The song resonated with my soul because as I grow older I see that it’s possible for me to be anything I set my mind too.

The the sky is the limit, the possibilities are endless, prayers can be answered and dreams do come true.

I believe in myself more than anything and wholeheartedly I believe that I AM EVERY WOMAN.

I believe that I can be the best version of ME.

I’M EVERY WOMAN because despite what could be said about me, I still hold my head high not allowing this or that to get to me.

I hold my head high because my past does not define me.

I AM EVERY WOMAN, because every day I wake up striving to be better than I was yesterday.

Black Girl Magic is happening all around us every day. So girl…you better get you some.

Not really surprised because I know I’m overweight and diabetes along with high blood pressure runs rapidly through both sides of the family, but I was in shock because I was like, dang I was about to get it together. I was about to finally start back going to the gym and stop with the drinking through the week, making all of the starches and having sometimes three or four coffees a day.

I was seriously about to stop.

But God stopped it for me.

It’s been a week since I had an iced coffee or donuts from Dunkin Donuts. It’s been a week since I’ve stopped by the Waffle House just for a sweet tea.

Now, I did mess up this past weekend by eating a Cîroc flavored cupcake and I felt so bad that I starved myself the next day.

I’m still waiting on my results to come back from the doctor but whether they’re good or bad, I have pledged to get my life and health in order.

I have faith that I can turn my health around and also feel good in the process.

I shared this personal thing with you because I want you all that’s reading this to know that it’s never too late.

It’s your time.

The way life is set up these days all we have to do is seek and we shall find, ask and HE will answer, and do right by ourselves and other people.

I swear I’ve been making strides in the right direction and it feels so good.

Not only with my weight and eating better, but being honest with myself about where I am and where I’m trying to be by 25.

Yes I’m that person that counts down to the major birthdays.

Along with getting my weight together, I’m doing the same with my credit. It’s not that I have bad credit, thank God. I just don’t have any.

So this past month, I started to finally use my two secured check cards and one credit card and my daddy told me that’s all I need for the rest of my life…lol.

He hates credit cards and only has ONE!

My father said get your gas on one card, buy yourself something nice on the other card and then the other is for emergencies.

He promised me that by the end of the year I’ll be where I want to be with my credit score, which my goal is a 720.

So my new motto for 2017 is, “weight going down credit score going up”.

As a #GirlBoss in the making, I encourage you to set realistic goals.

People sometimes hate when I say realistic goals because we’re encouraged to reach high for the stars, but I live in reality.

And I set realistic goals…okay.

It’s possible to do whatever you need to do to get to where you want to be.

And before I wrap this stamp up let me say this,

These are the things you need to do to get in alignment before stepping into your purpose., I’m going to call this free game since my next self-help book is entitled, Where Is My Purpose.

1. Control your thinking

My boyfriend works seven days a week and three of those days he works doubles, from 730am to 11:30 pm, baby, be at work. He loves his money so he has controlled his thinking to not think, man all I do is work ; it’s, I gotta get this money instead.

It has allowed me to have patience and grace.

It has allowed me to slow down and enjoy life more instead of stressing out about deadlines and stupid ass reviews.

I didn’t check my reviews for Salvation, which was my last release. Why? Because the reviews normally drive me crazy and I no longer want that kind of energy in my house.

There was a time when those reviews would literally ruin my whole day, but not anymore.

When becoming a Girl Boss and stepping into a purpose that you prayed and fasted for you have to CONTROL YOUR THINKING.

What else do I need to do?

Glad you asked!

The second thing you need to do is ‘ISOLATE THEN ELEVATE’.

Another conversation I had with a friend the other day led me to this next step, ISOLATE THEN ELEVATE.

What does this mean and how do I do it?

It’s simple, girl, trust me. I do it all of the time.

Isolate – fasting

Elevating – trusting

Fasting from yourself, what makes you weak and, what makes you question you.

So when I say I stopped saying that I was fasting, I meant I stopped saying it to myself.

I told myself that I was taking a break to clear my head because fasting is to be taken serious.

Fasting isn’t something you do for attention; in the Bible it’s a serious pledge.

Sometimes we have to isolate from our thinking, from what we do every day.

Man, listen I switched up my whole routine.

Instead of writing all night stressing myself out I now wake up in the morning and write, cook dinner and I’m in bed by ten prepared to get a full night’s sleep.

Sometimes we have to step outside of our comfort zone and try something new.

In our quiet time by ourselves (isolation) we can clearly hear and talk to God.

It’s nothing wrong with taking some time to yourself.

Isolation!

Elevation – trusting.

Why did I connect those two words?

Because the road won’t be easy and it won’t alwasy be fast-paced.

While you elevate, slowly but surely or sometimes rapidly, you’re trusting God for that glow up. This work out life ain’t easy, literally I’m sore right now.

My back and arms hurt so bad, but I’m trusting God that by the end of the year I’ll be able to do a lot more with my family and friends without being out of breath.

And finally I’ll be able to go cop me a Burberry shirt…lol…I really want one.

During your elevation you are trusting God to keep your mind and your peace.

And guess what? Everybody can’t go.

I told this girl the other day you be worrying so much about everybody else, girl ,worry about you. Focus on you!!

I don’t stress out about other people problems nor do I break my back for folks.

It’s just not in me anymore.

I’ve done it so much and I’m not doing it anymore.

God will have to literally say to me, “Help her daughter”.

While you elevate, you have to trust.

And as you trust Him, He will elevate you.

To me, it’s a win-win.

Please know that God will send who’s for you at the right time.

And last, but definitely not least!

The third step is to WAIT.

So here are the steps in case you forgot.

1. Control your thinking

2. Isolate then elevate

3. Wait

WAITING.

Listen, I ain’t got much patience, but I have way more than I had a year ago, even a few months ago.

So for the past two weeks, I’ve been struggling with finding something new. I’m a Libra and our attention spans aren’t the longest.

Writing is cool or whatever. I’ll never downplay my love of writing, but once it became a paycheck it just doesn’t feel the same to me anymore.

Randomly, I penned my first self-help book in less than three days, WHERE IS MY PEACE.

The book is almost sold out and that’s a major blessing.

I said that to say that we have to be patient and wait.

So my site nakoexpoapparel.com is ran by someone, well was ran by someone.

I honestly didn’t care about it. I’m one of those people where I’ll birth something and then a few months later I’m over it.

I don’t know why I’m like that but it just happens that way.

Okay back to the point.

So I said that to say, I start these projects, I obsess over them and then I pass them along to someone who can nurture them properly.

I do it all of the time, same thing with The Underworld. Now, my current series I cannot wait for this series to end, I have 3 books left and I’m so ready to be done it’s ridiculous.

But anyway, so we have to learn how to WAIT.

So I had someone running it but when I finished Where Is My Peace, I was so excited and wanted to be completely hands-on with this project so I asked for the password and information to the app that we used to monitor sales and such, and when I logged in I was like, ‘Damnnnn this thing is booming with orders’.

So I was like let me check my bank account, I had NEVER even checked the account for the apparel site.

So I found the information to the account and I checked it.

Listen I almost fell out okay.

I was like wait what.

So that’s where I’m currently at right now, yes…lol…I’m birthing another idea.

A bomb idea.

But I said ALLL of that to say, after I found out how much money my site was making I began to go crazy trying to come up with ideas for the site.

Literally, no sleeping, eating or writing. I had begun to obsess.

To the point where I knew I was tripping.

And then I told her that my site was doing great and now I want that to be my new job and I sounded distraught.

She told me to wait.

Literally, Ash said, “Girl close that laptop, enjoy the weekend, pray, and wait”.

Well needless to say I listened to her but I always do, she’s bomb.

I enjoyed my weekend and on Sunday morning I was lying in bed, too tired to do anything knowing my butt needed to be at church and God gave me the vision for my next venture, name and all.

I was so freaking happy.

I texted Ash and I told her the name and all of that, and she’s like, “See what I told you!”

So that’s my last point – wait.

Wait on God.

Trust that He will see you through.

Always.

God doesn’t want to see us down and out, He wants us to be fruitful.

I pray that this stamp touched you.

We all have the potential to be #GirlBosses if that’s what we chose.

We are all Girl Bosses if we want to be.

Walk in your purpose.

Keep your head high.

Forgive yourself first and then others.

Control your thinking, isolate then elevate, and WAIT.

With love,

NAKO

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